Sometimes, I find myself (and I know that other women do this as frequently if not, more than I do) spending a couple of minutes or… hours flipping through the touching albums of newlyweds – some of whom I have crossed paths with in life. It just makes me so happy. In that single event, families and friends gather to celebrate love!
One great aspect about the lucrative business of wedding planing is the fabulous wedding photographer who captures one-of-a-kind and timeless shots! Really, the look of these grooms when they see their wives-to-be is… precious, a treasure. I remember, 27 Dresses when recalling that the protagonist’s favorite part of every wedding is seeing the expression of the grooms. I never really paid attention until these photographs were compiled!
So here are some of my own.
Everything from the bride’s shoes, to the groom’s corsage, table ornaments, the wedding cake etc. are planned out to create a surreal and surprisingly personalized occasion. The tradition of having a formal event has been broken for each unique character of a couple to be highlighted in its details in keeping with the saying: “Each couple is different.”
Of course, I cannot doubt that because of the break there have been some precious traditions and solemnities that have been removed completely. Such as, maybe having the wedding in the Church. As a Christian, it doesn’t seem to make sense to me because I highly believe in this:
“It takes three to make love, not two: you, your spouse, and God. Without God people only succeed in bringing out the worst in one another. Lovers who have nothing else to do but love each other soon find there is nothing else. Without a central loyalty life is unfinished.” – Ven. Arch. Fulton J. Sheen
What I thoroughly pray for now is for people not to simply fixate themselves on such elaborate details of that wonderful event of their lives (which is just a say, 6 or so hour event) but to struggle to have God in the very center of their relationship. After all, marriage was created by Him in the first place. Although there will always be struggles and probable conflicts after marriage, having Him at the center of their relationship will no doubt prevent divorce and guarantee a relationship that will last beyond time and most probably deepen the 6-month long process of planning for the wedding to a rich and meaningful life of self-giving love.
Besides, it’s completely proven that with God in the center of a couple’s relationship and their respective family there will hardly be any divorce nor “torn hearts of either party and children.”
There’s a little town in Bosnia with 13,000 inhabitants that have a beautiful tradition of having a newlywed couple and eventually their family kiss a wooden cross each day!!! Check out the article here.
Only a small percentage of couples in the entire world will ever struggle for their relationship to have and keep God in the very center. Imposing such a culture would be rebellious to the current frivolous society. But that is exactly the challenge, what will you lose? I think that you’ll gain a lot more than you’ll ever lose all on your own.
For all the lovebirds out there, I was struck when I read this line in a book but it stuck to me and I guess it’s going to be the ideal perception of what being boyfriend-girlfriend will be in my eyes: Courtship is the stage in the process wherein two people decide to get married. I read this as that there is a mutual understanding that the man and the woman see themselves both as people who are ready to sacrifice for a life not for themselves but for the other. It’s NOT that they both decide MEANING to act as if married but to decide (make a resolution in your mind) and get to know what it really means to be married – to know what it entails and to get to know if the other is compatible with him or her.
To leave this topic, I’ll share this beautiful poster: To Pray for Your Husband. A wonderful list of moments in “his” life (which might happen daily) that must be thoroughly prayed for.